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tide and wind blew them. More than bravery, this was
manhood, their role to protect and provide for their
children and the mothers of their children. This role
would be accepted by modern young men if they were
allowed. PLEASE LET THAT SINK IN! The only
men who would risk their lives to protect women and
children are blocked from fatherhood, disposed of
and replaced in a relationship for trivial financial
reasons.
our young trainees; a non-judgemental acceptance
into adulthood.
The practice nurse called regularly at the children’s
home but on one occasion I left a note for her saying
the young men listened intently to my stories, caring
for my baby sister, my children and one of my grandchildren. It was very sad to hear what she considered
‘appropriate’ for young men to do. I am still very concerned for young men led to believe they will never
be allowed to hold their own child or be accepted as
caring, attentive loving parents. Men and boys are
held fast by a feminist statute of limitations on what
men should or shouldn’t be allowed to do. This is an
attitude problem that needs to be addressed.
From studies of Celtic people (e.g. Orcadians) Domestic abuse in the UK should naturally settle at UK
1950s level; about 0.46% possibly lower. National
statistics have been massively influenced by false reports about working class parents and political propaganda alleging chavs, slags and racists abuse and
neglect their children. The word ‘bastard’, used for
thousands of years, implies criminally or extremely
bad behaviour of fatherless children. There is no quick
fix for this and no therapy, yet invented to resolve the
social and emotional damage modern children suffer.
The only solution is a political solution.
A final heartbreaking story where family circumstances led to me becoming the main carer for my
granddaughter. My roofing foreman and a few
trainees called at my house while my granddaughter
was a baby, less than two months. Chris (foreman) is a
family man; he held my granddaughter while I found
the specs for a new contract. I asked the trainees if they
would like to hold her. They looked delighted. I asked
them to sit on the sofa and chair. Chris explained the
head being supported, they each took a turn at holding her. I heard later, this was their highlight of the
week, even the building supplies staff heard about the
time they held Gerry’s granddaughter.
Q. Your work is involved with and primarily
responsible for the care and prosperity of physically
abused and emotionally damaged young people.
Please can you dissect one case history for us where
a child has prospered by adopting specific strategies
developed through your empirical/observational
work, study and experience and practice in this
field?
One technique that everyone can use, no training required; Poly (I just like that name) had a reputation;
attacking social workers with sharp implements, fits of
outrage, bullying, abusive language and so on. If receiving a phone call, I sat in a room with her to terminate the call if she ‘kicked off ’. On this occasion, she
started dithering, becoming agitated, I asked to listen
in. Keep in mind she was 15 and he, the social worker
30-40-ish was calling her babyish terms such as darling, love, sweetheart, I terminated the call. The manager and I explained, (Transactional analysis) talking
in an infantile way sounds flirtatious and most men
are very uncomfortable with it. Most women recognise it too. Most adults would never use terms of endearment to anyone outside their own family. I
suggested from now on, she talked to me and other
men as adults, polite friendly and respectful with each
other. She agreed and it virtually transformed her.
Being more acceptable to adults made a huge difference to her outlook, including studies hobbies work
experience.
Contact: Gerald Hannah
Email: info@stability4c.com
Website: www.stability4c.com
Our next issue will be
available in October.
It will feature a range of
articles by experts, and will
be available at the Bond
Solon conference
In general terms, young men responded best to
responsibilities and learning skills. Several reasons why
I became a youth worker: Initially it was feedback
from college tutors, parents and family of the young
people we trained in my remedial and roofing business. Our trainees began with a skills audit, helping
the various subcontractors we hired, on site. After a
week or so they usually decided their career. We always pranked them as and when opportunity
knocked, which was a ‘Right of passage’, initiation into
the building trade, welcome to manhood. Working
with young offenders was exactly like working with
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